Wednesday, February 4, 2009

Sex, Girls, Boys & Valentine's Day

Here comes the big day............February 14th............Valentine's Day. The day men get to atone for a year's worth of sins or a day they help drive another nail through their coffin.

What's yours; desire, belief, and/or disappointment about Valentine's day? Is it the gift without a thought? The thought without a gift? Men, what do you want for Valentine's day? Women, do you really want; another Teddy Bear? Are any of us really paying attention to what Valentine's Day should be about or are we caught up with the marketing?

Here's an example for both sexes that could be a good Valentine's day gift.

  Men: understanding, remembering and showing they get a few things. How about instead of thinking your girlfriend/wife has a headache, understand why? The headache is because you want sex without caring that a woman needs a mental connection. If she's mad at you, stressed about something you haven't done, then the sex will not stimulate nor satisfy her. So, yes a headache is a better alternative to an unenjoyable romp in the bed. 

 Women: tell your boyfriend/husband he matters and you will not try to change who he is every moment of every day. Try to focus on those things he has gotten right and look back over the year to see what he's done for you that you may have missed. Perhaps there was a gesture, present or something else where he really showed his depth but you weren't paying attention. Hey, it will help stimulate your mental image and now sex looks good.

Both of the SEX. Yes, ha, amazed. Many of the 6.5 billion people on earth prove it's true. However, there are many negative things that should be confronted also on Valentine's Day and repaired. If you hit your partner (girls or boys) you have a problem that needs addressing. If you dominate in the bedroom it doesn't give you the right to dominate everywhere. If you find yourself hearing your partner's voice and turn his/her volume down in your head remember you are also turning down your relationship.

Valentine's Day - if you have a partner you love, reinforce your love by your actions not your gifts. If you don't have one then you are my Valentine, which means you are loved.

Rather then find another disappointing Valentine's Day -- skip the flowers, skip the teddy bears but bring the love. (oh well, the flowers, perfume, teddy bears, massages are all good)


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