tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9128459727936867354.post4627049270484034314..comments2023-09-15T06:05:42.791-04:00Comments on Second Life Blogging: Lauren On LoveAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11388727805062977964noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9128459727936867354.post-15164120060510560392008-06-24T09:44:00.000-04:002008-06-24T09:44:00.000-04:00Yes Lauren. You are right on. Life is about choice...Yes Lauren. You are right on. Life is about choices, one of the harder lessons of being a grownup. It goes with the hard work of building relationships. Attraction / infatuation happens, relationships are built and maintained, or not. Attraction is an instinct, relationship a skill that requires practice and reciprocal tender nurturing care or it withers and dies. Love is a word too cheaply used...<BR/><BR/>This guy doesn't get it. He wants it all. Its all about him. And your friend has blinding stars in her eyes.<BR/>-OJAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9128459727936867354.post-29473510736210858662008-06-19T13:52:00.000-04:002008-06-19T13:52:00.000-04:00The advice given is of course correct but for some...The advice given is of course correct but for someone in love, it is possibly more than your friend would (or could) act on. Your friend believes this guy loves her and she is currently at a place where she is prepared to believe him when he says they will be together.<BR/><BR/>The unfortunate things about us as human beings is that our hearts tend to rule our heads, that's why we make so many mistakes. We know the truth, but if the heart is stronger than the head, then we can't help but follow on a path with is not meant for us.<BR/><BR/>It's a matter of helping a friend to face the truth and to help them gradually move away from the relationship. More often than not, it is too difficult to just tell the guy that it's over as there are too many feelings involved.<BR/><BR/>My advice would be to reduce the contact initially; in other words, try to ween yourself off the relationship. If there is a certain day they meet, arrange to do something else. If he call's at a certain time of the day, don't answer the phone. Small steps.<BR/><BR/>There is no loyalty in this kind of relationship, it's obvious looking from the outside what is happening, but harder to see if you are middle of it all.<BR/><BR/>You friend should arrange to go out with her pals and go and meet some singles guys and not waste her precious life on someone who is just going to keep her hanging on a string and be there at his convenience.<BR/><BR/>Well, that's my 2p's worth anyway.. good luck.Nickyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01841416419697183919noreply@blogger.com